CONNECTING THE DOTS

I would like to tell you some things that are important in our life. Until the age of 15 we listen to our parents and their decision. After that we start deciding for ourselves. The first decision for most of us will be, the group that we are going to choose for further studies. Later, all the decisions from then till now will be ours.

I would like to share 3 incidents of my life.

The first incident:

After 10th, I wanted to study commerce and computer science but my family’s choice was computer and maths so I studied the same as per their wish. After 12th, when I had to join college, there were n no.of Suggestion in my family and they came up with so many ideas but none bothered to ask me what I wished for. At last it was the first time I fought with my family to take English but they never agreed. They asked me to take computer or maths. I said ok and went for my admission. Sitting outside the admission cell I decided to take English no matter what problem comes. I got admitted and came back to my family. I said “ I’m sorry, I joined in English department”. They were upset and said you will regret it one day. After 3 years, now, my family is proud of me for taking English because I’m earning now. I earn today because I took English.

The 2nd incident:

I am a person who hates something called hostel. From my third standard, I started wondering about students staying in hostel. Whenever my dad asked me about me going to a boarding school, I look at him and ask if I’m disturbing or disappointing anyone at home. I hated that life so much.

After completing my 8th Grade, I went to my family and said I want to go to the hostel. All were shocked and their eyes were filled with tears. After all this, I went to a boarding school in 9th standard. This decision changed my whole life. It made me strong, helped me to balance my emotions, taught me to fall and rise by myself, many more. It molded me from being a clay to be a beautiful pot. Even today I feel too proud that I took the decision of going to hostel.

The 3rd incident:

One of the most important incident that changed my whole life in 8 hours . It was 11th June 2013 , night 9'o’ clock. My father was at Coimbatore and I was in Ooty . He called me said papu and started crying .The call ended.

The next day morning at 6:30 a.m, my cousin asked me not to get ready for school and said “ let’s go to village” . I never understood but I got ready and went to my village. When I went to home he whishered in my ears, “ I’m sorry . Your father is no more”. I was completely blank and couldn’t understand what was happening.

After 2 days , I realised this is reality . Crying won’t help me in anyway. It won’t help me to move on. I got up washed my face and consoled everyone. If hurted a lot but I never exposed anything before my family. I took over all the responsibilities and said to my younger brother I am there for you . The point is only when you take up challenges you move forward .If I haven’t made myself strong fard cried “I don’t have parents” , today my brother and I won’t have come so far .Yes something gives us a deep scars that one can’t come over but comming out from that can make you fly high.

When you connect dot’s you just can’t keep going forward. You should look back to see if your are connecting to the correct dot.